The One Word Sabotaging Your Progress ~ and How to Change It

Ever feel like your life is paused on something you meant to decide a long time ago? That place where you’re thinking, praying, waiting, second-guessing… but not actually choosing?

Welcome, friend. 💛

This post is part of the Six Months From Now Movement — a simple idea with a powerful promise:

Six months from now, you could be in a completely different place if you choose one thing today.

Not a perfect choice.
Not a forever choice.
Just one decision that moves your life forward.

Today, we’re talking about the kind of decision that changes everything — why we delay, how “maybe” keeps you stuck, and the difference between being interested in something and actually committed to it.

Let’s get into it. ✨

💡 Decision Happens in a Moment

Here’s something your brain might resist at first:

👉 Making a decision doesn’t take time. It takes a moment.

Your mind loves to say:

  • “I need more time.”

  • “I’m not ready.”

  • “I’ll decide when it feels right.”

But time isn’t a requirement for decision — it’s a crutch.
A way your brain tries to keep you safe by keeping everything the same.

A decision happens the instant you shift from:

“I don’t know,” to “This is what I’m doing.”

One breath of clarity is enough.

When you let time choose for you, though, you stay in the land of “maybe.”
And “maybe” is the quickest way to stay exactly where you are for the next six months… and the next six years.

💛 Why We Delay Making Decisions

If you’ve ever been stuck in indecision, here are some honest reasons why:

1. Fear of choosing wrong.
You’re scared your decision might be a mistake. But staying undecided creates more regret than choosing ever could.

2. Fear of failure — and what you’ll make it mean.
You’re not actually afraid of failing…
You’re afraid of how you’ll judge yourself afterward.

3. Wanting certainty before you choose.
You want proof, a guarantee, a sign from heaven.
But God rarely hands us a complete map — He walks the path with us, step by step.

4. The illusion of safety in indecision.
If you don’t choose, you can’t lose.
But you also can’t win.

5. Confusing interest with commitment.
Interest feels good and safe.
Commitment stretches you — and your brain sees stretching as danger.

🌷 A Story: The Domino Decision

There was a season when I was dating… and not enjoying it. At all.

Dating felt stressful, discouraging, and heavy. I made every “failed” date mean something was wrong with me, or with the men, or with the entire process. It was exhausting.

Then one day, something shifted.
I didn’t get a sign or a perfect plan.
I just made a simple decision:

“I’m going to have fun dating.”

I decided to show up curious.
To let myself be myself.
To enjoy meeting another person without needing it to be anything more than one evening together.

Some of those dates were definitely not “the one.”
But I went anyway — because that choice was teaching me:

  • what I wanted

  • what I didn’t

  • what felt good

  • what didn’t

When I decided to date from curiosity and joy instead of fear and pressure, everything changed:

💫 The fog lifted
💫 Possibilities opened
💫 I met more people
💫 And eventually… I met the man who became my husband

It started with one decision.
Not a big one — just an honest one.

That’s the power of choosing on purpose.
It creates momentum long before the result ever arrives.

💥 Decision vs. Delay

Here’s the truth that changes lives: No woman becomes the next version of herself accidentally.

Growth begins with a moment of:
“I choose this.”

When you make a decision:

  • the path becomes clearer

  • resistance gets quieter

  • the next step reveals itself

Not because the world changed — but because you did.

Tony Robbins says it best:

“All change happens with a choice.”
Because the decision itself is transformative.

🔥 Interested vs. Committed

A lot of women think they’re “confused” about what they want.

They’re not.

They’re interested in the result, but not committed to the process.

Here’s the difference:

Interested sounds like:

“I want this… as long as it’s easy.”
“I want this… but I need certainty first.”
“I want this… but I don’t want discomfort.”

Committed sounds like:

“I want this — even if it’s uncomfortable.”
“I want this — even if I don’t know the how yet.”
“I want this — even if I might fail along the way.”
“I want this — even if I have to grow.”

Commitment is simply you saying:

“This matters enough that I’m willing to evolve to receive it.”

Interest waits.
Commitment moves.

Interest hopes.
Commitment builds.

✨ Your Six Months From Now Moment

Let’s end here, with clarity and power.

If you choose nothing, six months from now… nothing changes.

But if you choose one desire — just one — and move from interested to committed, you will not be the same woman in six months.

Ask yourself:

✨ What do I want six months from now that I’m willing to choose today?
✨ What desire am I done putting on hold?
✨ What have I been “interested” in… that I am now ready to commit to?

Pick one. Only one.

That decision can ignite everything. 💖

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