The First Step to Changing Your Life—Start Dreaming Again
Have you ever hit a season of life where everything felt… fuzzy?
You’re doing all the things — work, church, errands, family responsibilities — but deep down, you’re not lit up. You’re managing your life, but not really creating it.
If that feels familiar, take a deep breath, my gorgeous friend 💖. You’re not alone.
This idea is at the heart of something I’m calling the Six Months from Now Movement — a simple, powerful invitation to look ahead and ask yourself, “Where do I want to be six months from now?”
And the very first step in that journey is this:
✨ Remember how to dream again.
Not the dreams others expect of you.
Not the dreams you think you should want.
Not the “acceptable,” tidy, safe dreams.
I’m talking about your dreams — the ones God planted in your heart before you even knew who you were becoming.
Today, let’s wake those dreams back up.
⭐ Why We Stop Dreaming
When we were little girls, dreaming was effortless. We could imagine anything, and nothing felt out of reach.
But as we get older, something shifts.
Life bumps into us — heartbreak, disappointment, loneliness, expectations we never asked for. Somewhere along the way, dreaming starts to feel dangerous.
Maybe you’ve heard your own mind say things like:
“It hurts too much when dreams don’t happen.”
“I should be grateful for what I have.”
“I should want what good LDS women are supposed to want.”
Here’s a tender truth:
Many single LDS women try (often unconsciously) to want the “right” things — the culturally expected things — even if that’s not where their soul is leaning.
Marriage and children are beautiful desires.
But they are not the only righteous desires.
When you silence your true wants to fit a mold, you cut off your sense of aliveness. You start managing your life instead of creating it.
And if you’ve ever thought, “I don’t even know what I want anymore”… nothing is wrong. Truly.
It just means you’ve been in survival mode. And dreaming cannot happen in survival mode.
Dreaming is what gives God something to work with. Dreaming creates direction.
As Tony Robbins says: “All change happens with a choice.”
And Dean Graziosi adds: “You can’t hit a fuzzy target.”
Dreaming sharpens the target.
⭐ The Moment I Realized I Had Stopped Dreaming
I want to share something personal, because I understand this on a very real level.
After I got married, I remember thinking:
“This is it. I’ve arrived. I’m married. I’ve made it.”
And in many ways, I really was happy.
But at the same time… I wasn’t. Not fully.
Little by little, I stopped creating my life and started managing it.
Laundry.
Cooking dinner.
Taking care of my husband.
Doing all the “good wife” things I believed were expected of me.
There’s nothing wrong with any of that. But somewhere along the way, the part of me that loved dreaming went quiet. And every time I felt that longing rise up — the desire for more purpose, more connection, more growth — I felt guilty.
Was it okay to want more?
Was I being ungrateful?
Was I selfish for wanting something beyond my roles?
Deep down, I knew:
There was more for me.
And Heavenly Father knew it too.
So He nudged me — gently but unmistakably — out of managing and back into creating. And the moment I opened my heart again, something lit up inside me.
My creativity woke up.
My desire to grow came back online.
I started dreaming again — in a soul-aligned, God-led way.
Those dreams led me to coaching…
to becoming a certified life coach…
to launching my practice…
to starting this podcast…
…and ultimately, to you — and this work of dreaming, creating, and believing in what’s possible.
If God woke that up in me, He can absolutely wake it up in you.
⭐ Why Dreaming Matters Spiritually
Dreaming isn’t fluff. Dreaming isn’t selfish.
Dreaming is faith in motion.
It’s one of the ways you exercise your divine agency and co-create your life with God.
Dreaming taps into your divine DNA — the creator inside you. It sounds like:
“I want more joy.”
“I want more connection.”
“I want more peace.”
“I want more meaning.”
“I trust God enough to want again.”
Here’s the truth I want you to hold onto:
✨ Any righteous desire in your heart was planted there by God Himself.
Not your parents.
Not your culture.
Not your leaders.
Not pressure.
GOD.
He put those desires there because with Him, you are capable of creating them.
This doesn’t mean the path will feel easy.
Fear will show up. Doubt will show up.
And yes — sometimes guilt will show up.
But that is exactly where your self-confidence grows.
That’s how you learn to feel any feeling…
trust yourself again…
and step into a bigger, truer version of you.
Dreaming is the doorway to transformation.
⭐ How to Start Dreaming Again
Let’s bring dreaming out of your head and into real action.
Before you write anything down, take a slow breath.
Let your shoulders drop.
Get quiet for a moment.
Now imagine Heavenly Father beside you, asking:
“Daughter, what do you truly want?
What have you stopped allowing yourself to hope for?
What desire have you dismissed because it feels too bold?”
Let those questions soften you.
Then grab a notebook and number the page 1–25.
Write down 25 things you want.
Don’t judge.
Don’t explain.
Don’t try to make your wants “reasonable.”
Just want.
If your mind goes blank — that’s normal. You’ve been surviving. Keep going. More will come.
When your list feels complete, circle the one want that, if it came true, would change everything else.
That’s your starting point for the next six months.
And here’s a bonus prompt:
✨ “If I fully trusted God with my life, I would allow myself to want…”
Whatever comes out is sacred. That is your divine nature speaking.