Stuck? How to Stop Waiting for Easy and Do the Hard Thing
Everything Is Hard…Until It’s Not
Years ago—before this blog, before the podcast, before I knew I’d one day work with single LDS women—I sent an email to my tiny little list that still hits home for me today.
It was all about one Bible verse that, honestly, stopped me in my tracks:
“How long halt ye between two opinions? If the Lord be God, follow him.”
(1 Kings 18:21)
Now, yes—on the surface, this verse is about choosing God over idols. But what grabbed me was that first question:
“How long halt ye between two opinions?”
It felt like God was asking me directly:
👉 How long are you going to pause between what you want and what you’re actually willing to do to get it?
Oof.
Let’s make this real:
If you want to feel peace with your singleness, you can’t keep feeding the belief that your life is “less than” because you’re not married.
If you want to grow your self-confidence, you have to practice new thoughts—even when the old ones feel so true.
If you want to feel closer to Heavenly Father, you actually have to show up and connect—even when He feels quiet.
Wanting is easy. Doing? Not so much.
We all “halt” in our own ways. You hesitate. You wait for the overwhelm to lift. You think, I’ll do it when life settles down…when I feel ready…when it gets easier.
But let me be lovingly direct:
“Easy” isn’t coming.
Not first, anyway.
The hard always shows up first.
Want to eat healthier? Here come the donuts at work. 🍩
Want to save money? Target has sandals on sale. Again.
Want to stop comparing yourself? Cue the friend’s engagement post on Instagram. 💍
The myth is that we’ll feel motivated when it’s the right time. But truthfully? If you wait for it to be easy, you’ll be waiting forever.
Let me give you an example. One of my clients is working long, exhausting hours right now—6 days a week, 12-hour days. It’s her busiest time of the year. But she also deeply wants to lose weight and live a healthier lifestyle.
She could’ve decided to put that goal on hold until things quiet down. But she didn’t.
Why?
Because she realized something that changed everything:
You can still take action—even when it’s hard.
✨ Everything is hard…until it’s not.
It’s hard to:
Walk into church alone.
Go on a first date after heartbreak.
Believe something new about yourself when the old thoughts feel familiar.
But over time—through practice and consistency—what felt hard becomes your new normal.
You go from tracking your food to making healthy choices automatically.
You go from dreading Sundays to looking forward to church.
You go from swiping on a dating app with anxiety to seeing it as an adventure.
The hard turns into habit.
Habit turns into self-confidence.
And confidence? That changes everything. 💪
This is one of the core principles I teach in my coaching program:
Self-confidence isn’t about waiting for easy—it’s about trusting yourself to do it anyway.
It’s:
Keeping your word to yourself (even when no one’s watching).
Practicing new thoughts (even when the old ones sneak in).
Showing up with courage (even when you're not seeing fast results).
It’s saying:
✔️ I’m going to be kinder to myself this week.
✔️ I’m going to go to that activity—even if I’m nervous.
✔️ I’m going to open my scriptures—even when I don’t feel like it.
And then? Actually doing it. Not perfectly. But consistently.
Now let me say this because I think someone reading needs to hear it:
Sometimes the hard feels more than just hard—it feels impossible.
Like a wall you’ve hit a hundred times.
That’s where coaching can help.
When I work with women, I help them see that what they thought was the end of the road…isn’t.
It’s just a detour.
A mountain they haven’t yet learned to climb. 🏔
And together? We figure it out.
So let me bring you back to that verse again:
“How long halt ye between two opinions? If the Lord be God, follow him.”
There’s something you want—peace, confidence, connection, love, joy.
Don’t wait for it to be easy.
Do hard. Let it be hard. And do it anyway.
Because everything is hard…until it’s not.
And that’s how the life you want finally starts to show up. 💗