Women Who Get What They Want Always Start Here

There’s something I see again and again in the lives of women.

They know they want more.
More clarity. More connection. More peace. More momentum.

They’ve prayed.
They’ve tried.
They’ve worked on themselves.

And yet… things still feel harder than they should. 😔

Not because they’re doing life “wrong.”
Not because they’re lazy, broken, or lacking discipline.

But because something inside them quietly resists saying three simple words:

“I need help.”

The quiet resistance we don’t talk about

Most women don’t think, “I refuse help.”

Instead, it sounds much more reasonable than that:

• “I don’t think this would work for me.”

• “I don’t have time.”

• “I don’t think I can do it.”

• “I should already have this figured out.”

These thoughts feel responsible.
They feel mature.
They even feel humble.

But they quietly keep us stuck.

What’s interesting is this:
We ask for help all the time—just not with internal things.

We get help to have babies.
We get help to clean our teeth.
We get help when we’re sick.
We even get help changing our hair color. 💇‍♀️

We don’t sit in a dentist’s chair thinking,
“I really should already know how to do this myself.”

But when it comes to emotions, confidence, patterns, growth—
suddenly help feels risky.

It feels personal.
It feels vulnerable.

What your brain is really doing

This resistance isn’t a character flaw.
It’s biology.

The primitive part of you brain has three primary jobs:

• Seek pleasure

• Avoid pain

• Conserve energy

All very useful… just not when you’re trying to grow.

When you consider asking for help or changing something internal, your brain doesn’t cheer you on.
It tries to protect you.

It offers thoughts like:

• “What if this doesn’t work?”

• “What if I try and still struggle?”

• “What if this proves I’m behind?”

From your brain’s perspective, these aren’t negative thoughts.
They’re protective strategies.

The immediate comfort of staying on the couch with Netflix and ice cream feels far safer than the delayed reward of becoming who you’re meant to become. 🍿

The pain of staying the same feels predictable.
The pain of change feels unknown.

So your brain whispers, “Don’t bother.”

The power shift: better questions

Growth doesn’t come from arguing with your brain or judging it.

It comes from asking better questions.

When your brain says, “What if this doesn’t work?”
Try asking: “What would my life look like if it does?”

When your brain says, “I don’t have time,”
Ask: “What am I currently spending time on that isn’t creating the life I want?”

When your brain says, “I don’t think I can do it,”
Ask: “What if I didn’t have to do it perfectly—just consistently?”

And when your brain says, “I should already have this figured out,”
Ask: “Why do I believe I should already have this figured out?”

Needing help isn’t weakness.
It’s evidence that your brain is doing its job—and that you’re choosing to lead it instead of letting it run on default.

Why self-confidence changes everything

Here’s the key distinction:
You don’t overcome your brain’s chatter by eliminating it.

You overcome it by building self-confidence.

Self-confidence isn’t bravado or positive thinking.
It’s a skill set.

It’s the ability to:

• feel any emotion without running from it 😌

• keep the promises you make to yourself

• improve the opinion you have of yourself over time

When you have these skills, your brain can chatter all it wants—and you still move forward.

You still ask for help.
You still take action.
You still create change.

Worth vs. progress (this matters)

This distinction changes everything.

Your worth cannot be added to.
It cannot be diminished.
It is already complete.

You are a daughter of God. 💛

Your worth is not connected to:

• your relationship status

• your body

• your productivity

• your emotional growth

• how confident you feel on any given day

Worth is identity.
It answers the question, “Who am I?”

Progress is something else entirely.

Progress doesn’t change who you are.
It changes what you can experience.

A newborn baby and an Olympic athlete are equal in worth—
but they don’t have the same capacity.

Seeking help and building self-confidence doesn’t increase your value.
It expands your capacity.

Capacity to love more fully.
Capacity to feel without falling apart.
Capacity to create relationships, opportunities, and a life you enjoy.

Getting help doesn’t make you more worthy.
It makes you more available to the life already meant for you.

Where women who get what they want begin

Women who create the lives they want don’t start with more willpower.

They start with humility.

They stop insisting on doing everything alone.
They allow themselves to be taught.
They allow themselves to be helped.

Not because they’re lacking—
but because they’re becoming.

And that is where real momentum begins ✨